The Importance of End-of-Life Planning for Queer and Trans Folks
Death, and just about any tangentially related topic, is super depressing and unpleasant to talk about. Even worse is having to think about the end of your life—and how you want it to play out—in great detail. But reflecting on the topic now, before any bad shit happens, can save you and the people close […]
My Marriage Wasn’t in Trouble—But We Needed Couples Therapy Anyway
I’m well aware of the stereotype; I’ve seen it perpetuated in plenty of movies and tv shows: Couple in crisis waits until they’re on the brink of divorce, then goes to marriage therapy. Couple splits up anyway. That scenario has played out very differently for me and my wife, Sam. We’ve been married for five […]
145 of the Best Queer and Lesbian Sex Toys
Because I’m a selfless solider of the queer community – I’ve spent the last year reviewing the best queer and lesbian sex toys. It was very scientific and not at all self-serving. Okay, maybe it was slightly self-serving. But it’s for a good cause. The lesbian community is plagued with stereotypes, misconceptions, and outright falsehoods […]
18 Lesbian Sites to Bookmark IMMEDIATELY
When I was about nine, I typed the word “lesbian” into Internet Explorer search bar on my parents’ desktop computer after a girl at school told me I looked like one. (It was the week before I was going on holiday to South Africa and being the practical kid I was, I’d asked the hairdresser […]
It’s not just hair; My Lesbian Hairstyle
My hair is a dark mass of course curls. When left to its own devices it sticks straight up in clumps of wire like swirls. While I was growing up, it was never a priority and was perpetually swept up into the standard issue basketball practice bun directly on the top of my head. Now […]
A Rapidly Shrinking List of All the Lesbian Bars Left Worldwide
Lesbian Bars are closing their doors around the world, but there are still some lesbian bars and clubs left for us to enjoy. Use this guide to find lesbian nightclubs around the world.
Ultimate Guide to Lesbian Dating Apps to Meet the Girl of Your Dreams
Lesbian dating apps and websites are a popular way in the queer community to make friends, date, hook up, or find a forever match. From the option to state your pronouns and sexual orientation from day one to find the one other invisible femme in your small town, lesbian online dating has revolutionized some of […]
We Ranked the Best Lesbian Scenes in Pop Culture
I’ve been thinking recently about all of the women who love women that I’ve seen on my screens over the years and how the shaped me into the gay lady I am today. Some of them made my heart skip a beat, some of them made it break ever so slightly, and some of them […]
Best of the Web: Queer Porn That Doesn’t Suck
While we have more access to porn than ever before, the vast majority of it can leave you scrolling through clips for hours or unclear about what to buy that you will really love. As a sex therapist and educator, it one of my sworn duties to help folks find what turns them on so […]
How to Support LGBT Refugees: 6 LGBTQ+ Organizations that Need Your Support
Every year, The International Gay & Lesbian Travel Association’s (IGLTA) Global Convention takes place in a new host city and welcomes international delegates from across the world. Every year I speak at the conference but this year I was invited to attend IGLTA fundraising gala and award ceremony on behalf of Visit West Hollywood. During […]