The Outer Banks (OBX) of North Carolina isn’t just a stretch of pristine shoreline—it’s a vibrant, evolving destination where queer travelers can feel both relaxed and welcomed. Thanks to an invitation from the Outer Banks Visitors Bureau, we had the opportunity to explore the region firsthand and experience how LGBTQ+ friendly it truly is.
Known for its wide, windswept beaches, laid-back coastal towns, and strong community ties, OBX is steadily earning its place on the map as a safe, inclusive place for LGBTQ+ visitors. While some beach towns may still be catching up, Manteo and the surrounding areas stand out for their welcoming attitude and the thriving network of LGBTQ-owned and affirming businesses that make this coastal escape special.
We’ve even put together a full gay Outer Banks itinerary based on our time spent wandering these charming villages and coastal hideaways. As someone who’s explored the area many times, I’ve had the chance to visit many of these spots firsthand.
Whether you’re planning a romantic weekend, a self-care retreat, or a fun group trip, here are 12 reasons Manteo and the Outer Banks are genuinely LGBT-friendly, complete with local gems and experiences that show off the region’s welcoming spirit.
The Blue Point
A Culinary Gem in Duck
Tucked along the boardwalk in the town of Duck, The Blue Point blends Southern hospitality with creative coastal cuisine. Co-owned by Jamie Raskin, a member of the LGBTQ+ community, the restaurant offers more than just a meal—it creates an experience.
The menu features local seafood, thoughtful wine pairings, and seasonal dishes inspired by regional flavors. What stands out most is the atmosphere, elegant without being stuffy, intimate yet bustling. As the sun dips below the sound, diners gather on the adjacent lawn to sip cocktails and enjoy live music. The staff’s warm, inclusive energy makes it a standout for queer travelers looking for a memorable night out.
Eventide
Cozy Evenings by the Sound
Just steps from The Blue Point, Even Tide is the stylish little sister to its more formal counterpart. Also co-owned by Raskin, this natural wine bar and lounge embraces low-intervention wines, local beers, and an ever-evolving menu of small plates.
Whether you’re cozied up inside on a rainy evening or taking in golden hour from the dock, Eventide has a romantic, laid-back charm. It’s a gathering space where queer couples, friends, and solo travelers can enjoy thoughtful hospitality in a setting that invites conversation and connection.
Ascension Studio
Wellness with a Queer Touch
If your idea of vacation includes recharging your mind and body, head to Ascension Studio in Kill Devil Hills. More than just a yoga studio, this healing hub offers Reiki, sound baths, tarot, and community workshops. The space is women-owned and explicitly inclusive, welcoming guests of all gender expressions and body types. The instructors are trauma-informed, and many identify as LGBTQ+, bringing authenticity and care to their practice. During my visit, I felt instantly grounded by the serene atmosphere and inclusive language. It’s a rejuvenating stop for anyone looking to balance the spiritual with the physical while on vacation.
Downtown Books
Stories That Reflect Us
In the heart of Manteo, Downtown Books is a cozy indie bookstore with a well-curated mix of bestsellers, beach reads, and local OBX titles. The shop carries LGBTQ+ literature and is known for supporting queer authors and inclusive storytelling.
The staff is friendly and affirming, and the space often hosts community events and author signings that draw a diverse, welcoming crowd. Whether you’re picking up your next vacation read or browsing gifts, Downtown Books is a feel-good stop for book lovers of all kinds.
Anderson’s Florist OBX
Blooms from the Heart
In the heart of Manteo, Anderson’s Florist is run by a couple, Jimmy Anderson and Clint Perl, who have been providing artful floral designs and warm, personal service for decades. Beyond arrangements, they help with weddings, events, and home décor, and are passionate about building a welcoming community.
Their shop is full of color, creativity, and kindness, making it a joyful place to stop in for a bouquet or a friendly chat. They‘re an incredible vendor to turn to for anyone planning an LGBT wedding on OBX.
Outer Banks Brewing Station
Brews and Beats
As the country’s first wind-powered brewery, Outer Banks Brewing Station in Kill Devil Hills is as committed to sustainability as it is to fun. With a beer garden, live music stage, and a menu full of Southern coastal favorites, it’s a place where all kinds of people feel welcome. Their events often include Pride-themed nights, drag brunches, and fundraisers for queer organizations. It’s also a great stop for a casual date night or a group hang.
The Pearl Hotel
Modern Comfort in Inclusive Manteo
Located in the heart of Manteo, The Pearl Hotel offers a boutique experience with 16 uniquely themed rooms, each blending modern elegance with global design touches. Guests can enjoy amenities like a rooftop greenspace with views of the Roanoke Sound and a variety of breakfast items in the lobby. The EveryQueer team was invited to stay there on our recent visit, and we had an incredible time. The hotel staff was so kind, and the location is incredible.
Old Tom’s Beer, Wine & Provisions
A Local Favorite with Pride Roots
Tucked just off the waterfront, Old Tom’s is part bottle shop, part bar, and all charm. With comfy couches, a relaxed porch, and a curated selection of beer, wine, and snacks, it’s an easy place to unwind after a day of exploring.
The owners are strong allies of the LGBTQ+ community, even hosting the annual Survivors Wrap Party during OBX Pridefest. Whether you’re sipping a chilled rosé or browsing local brews, the vibe here is always welcoming.
Sam & Omie’s Restaurant
A Nags Head Staple
Few places in the Outer Banks are as storied as Sam & Omie’s. What began as a breakfast stop for local fishermen in the 1930s has grown into a beloved institution. Today, the diner-style eatery still serves hearty breakfasts, fresh seafood, and plenty of OBX charm. Longtime staff and regulars alike embrace a come-as-you-are ethos, making it one of the most reliably chill spots to grab a bite after a beach walk or paddle session.
KEES Vacations
Inclusive Stays Across the Outer Banks
With a wide portfolio of rental homes and condos throughout the Outer Banks, KEES Vacations makes it easy to find a stay that fits your vibe—whether you’re after a beachfront villa for two or a big group house for a weekend escape.
Beyond their comfortable accommodations and flexible booking, KEES stands out for their visible support of the local LGBTQ+ community, including sponsorship of OBX Pridefest. That kind of visible allyship stands out—especially in a region where queer travelers want to feel not just safe, but genuinely welcomed.
Their properties are professionally managed and well-maintained, and the team is known for being responsive, respectful, and affirming to all guests.
A History of Inclusivity
The Outer Banks has always attracted people looking to live a slower pace—artists, adventurers, spiritual seekers, and folks drawn to small-town life with room to breathe. That openness has translated into a region more accepting of the LGBTQ+ community than you might expect. Manteo, in particular, is a haven for creatives and independent business owners, many of whom prioritize equity and inclusion in both policy and practice.
A Community That’s Learning to Show Up
In a place known more for its lighthouses than its rainbow crosswalks, visible support for LGBTQ+ folks might still be catching up, but it’s there if you know where to look. From rainbow stickers in storefronts to casual conversations with locals who genuinely want to be welcoming, the Outer Banks is slowly finding its footing as a queer-affirming destination.
OBX Pridefest, held each September, is a big part of that progress. It’s a weekend of drag shows, dance parties, and art walks that brings together queer locals, allies, and visitors alike. While the region may not have a year-round queer scene, events like this show how community support is growing. The momentum is quiet but steady, shaped by individuals and small businesses who value connection and want everyone to feel at home, whether you live here or you’re just passing through.
Whether you’re sipping wine by the sound or catching a sunrise over the dunes, the Outer Banks offers queer travelers more than just a beach trip—it’s a place to feel at home. With its mix of affirming businesses, creative energy, and laid-back charm, Manteo and the OBX are proving that small-town Southern hospitality can be proudly inclusive. Check out our full OBX gay itinerary for more ways to explore, unwind, and connect.
